I was trying to argue that it *wasn't* all in you, but pervasive in many many US cultures, though of course I very easily could be wrong. I started with Chun Woo partly because I thought it was interesting, partly to illustrate the pervasiveness of competitiveness, so pervasive that a whole (scapegoating) meme arose from the itchiness it causes.

I think you're exceptionally good at continuing, process, relational relationships, in fact, with remarkably little founding in competition or blame/credit or balance sheets.